Over the course of my own life, and I have witnessed the same going on for friends, family and clients, I have struggled with trusting the voice within myself over the noise of the world telling me what I should do and who I should be. Which is a damn shame, because as women we can tap into so much emotional, spiritual and intuitive wisdom it's out of this world. Personally, I have felt this disconnection in my struggle to find self-love and self-acceptance both about my body and about my temperament. I had a lot of trouble choosing a direction for the type of career I wanted, feeling that what my soul really wanted didn't fit with anything that was expected of me. I also struggled with dissatisfying relationships, feeling very much like a failure. For a long time, I wondered what was wrong with me, all the while being oblivious to what was special about me.
What do all these struggles have in common? A lack of alignment, a.k.a. connection to self. I, like so many other women, had never been taught to tap into my own inner source and guidance. I had never been shown how to trust myself or how to listen to my gut. I had never learned to make decisions based on how they felt, rather than how well they fit with what was expected of me or quite how willing I was to disappoint. And what happens, when we don't listen to the voice within ourselves and use our feelings to navigate life, is that we make important decisions, big or small, based on something that is outside of ourselves. And the result of that can never be truly aligned with who we are, who we're meant to be, and what we want to create in our lives. This lack of alignment can also feel like a lack of direction or a lack of self-trust, which is why so many of us defer to outside sources to help us, because we think we can't be trusted.
My why has always been very clear, I just wasn’t very sure about the how. I always knew I wanted to help women feel good enough as themselves, I just didn’t really know how I would go about doing that. Unresolved issues and emotional avoidance kept me from my own alignment, well-being and freedom. And I couldn’t find happiness for myself as long as I didn’t work through that, so I delved deeper. This is when I found Martha Beck. Her life coaching tools really helped me figure out who I was, what I wanted and why I was so unhappy. Coaching helped me question my thoughts and beliefs so that they served me instead of holding me back. I felt such change in my own life, in terms of alignment and direction, in knowing who I was and where I was going, that I knew I had to find a way to do this work in the world.
And so this is where I am now thanks to Alignment, offering one on one coaching, coaching programs and workshops.