An Aligned Life #3: Taking It Slow
This week I’m thinking about…
Summer is just beginning, and no part of me wants to be stressed or overworked. I want to be spending quality time with my loved ones, I want to be taking in the sun and I want to feel carefree.
When it comes to being present in those moments (and not physically present but mentally stressed) I have two things I’ve noticed were weighing me down, and I’m sure you can relate.
The first one has to do with the thoughts I’m thinking (although sometimes I feel like they are thinking me). I don’t know about you, but when I’m stressed in one area of my life, it tends to seep into other areas and “color” my thoughts there too. Sometimes I find myself ruminating over something because I’m so used to that mental stress. For example, this week I was bothered with something, a memory from the past. And it was affecting how I was showing up with my partner. And I don’t want that. I want those moments to be sweet. So I started asking myself:
“Is there actually a problem right now or are my thoughts the problem?” And I would just realize I was making up the problem. Asking myself that question shifted how I felt and so it directly changed how present I was with my partner.
The second thing is just reminding myself that imperfect action is still action. It still moves me forward. And the most important thing for me to do is to keep doing things my way. Sometimes, it’s easy to get caught up in comparison - or thinking that because we’re new at something we have to emulate what someone else is doing. It’s okay to just take our time and do it our way.
Because at the end of the day, we come home to our loved ones and we exhale. And that is truly what matters most.