In this blog post, I’m going to describe what Alignment Coaching is like, and the possible ways in which you might be needing it right now.
First off, I offer a Free Quiz called Am I In Alignment? for you to figure out if you’re in Alignment. At the end of the quiz, I offer six coaching exercises for you to integrate in your life that will greatly help you feel aligned and stay in Alignment.
I have outlined the following “Symptoms” of Lack of Alignment as a way for you to know how Alignment Coaching could help you. I am very passionate about how Alignment shifts every area of your life to make sure it feels like you, honors who you are and your specific needs, gifts, temperament + purpose. Especially as women, learning about Alignment is what will help us learn to develop self-trust, take up space + speak up without guilt and stop making ourselves small.
So here’s how Lack of Alignment might be showing up in your life right now:
“Symptoms” of Lack of Alignment:
Having unfulfilling jobs or difficulty choosing a career. Where we go to work everyday says a lot about what we want for ourselves. And it’s such an important part of our daily life that unhappiness at work has an impact on our entire lives. It’s hard, choosing what to do + where to work when you don’t have the tools + practices to make choices + decisions that really honor who you are, what you want and how you want to feel.
Dissatisfying relationships + repeating the same negative patterns. Relationships are also such a big part of our lives, and the state of our relationships is a direct reflection of our relationship with ourselves. When we aren’t clear on who we are, what we want and how we want to feel, and if we don’t actually believe we deserve to have them, our relationships will reflect all of the lack of self-love, the negative patterns and the low standards we have for ourselves.
Lack of self-trust, such as wondering if you said or did the right thing. This is the feeling of daily uncertainty, and it looks a lot like insecurity, but it’s not actually the same. Insecurity is wondering if others are pleased or bothered by you. Uncertainty and lack of self-trust is wondering if you actually said what you meant and did what felt right for you. It’s measuring how aligned and truthful you are with yourself. And in a way, the feeling of going against yourself is worse than simple insecurity.
Feeling emotionally, physically and psychologically out of balance. Feeling out of balance is the feeling that there are too many things to do, too many important things to pay attention to, that you don’t have time to be truly present and intentional for each of them. Sometimes, it’s also being torn between what you should do and what actually feels natural to you.
Experiencing intense highs + lows. Emotional stability is a sign that you feel capable of handling different situations and not feel personally threatened. It is the belief that no matter what happens, you know you will be alright. Intense emotions are often a reflection of intense fearful beliefs and thought patterns. Rebuilding self-trust and Alignment is crucial to giving yourself a chance to be alright and to be stable on a daily basis.
Having the occasional thought that there might be something wrong with you. When you have never learned to trust yourself, and trust your inner voice, and know that it is in your best interest, it is easier to question your own worth. Especially as women, we are raised to need approval and to depend on external validation. We question ourselves and whether what we feel and believe are valid. But as Alignment has it, Who We Are and How We Feel are central to navigating life in a way that serves us and allows us to feel freedom and joy.
Having certain symptoms of depression such as: irritability, resentment, lack of aliveness or purpose, fatigue, and feeling overwhelmed by simple tasks. One of the first things I teach in this work is the importance of our emotions and how related they are to whether or not we’re in Alignment. In fact, knowing how we feel is precisely how we learn to navigate life in a way that honors who we are, what we want and how we want to feel. We need to be aware of those emotions. And so, lack of Alignment shows up as very clear emotional and physical signs. Going against who you are, what you want and what you need consistently is a sure way to accumulate frustration, resentment and fatigue. And feeling that way doesn’t allow space for ease, purpose and aliveness.
If you can relate to anything I’ve just described, I totally get it. I have been there myself, which is why I’m so passionate about sharing this work with women. I highly recommend you check out the coaching exercises at the end of the quiz I mentioned earlier. It’s a nice way to get started with this type of Alignment work. If you’d like to know more about me and why I do this work, you can do so here. If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to e-mail me at EPcoachingpractice@outlook.com or connect with me on instagram.